9 Small Signs Someone Truly Loves You …

5 min readNov 20, 2020

A few years ago, I remember I spent an entire evening on the phone with one of my best friends, Nadia. She needed to talk as she was struggling in her relationship. She had doubts about her girlfriend’s feelings, and our conversation ended up being an analysis of her behaviors.

A few days later, they broke up.

We’ve all gone through this at least once. Scratching our head, asking ourselves if our partner is really into us as they say or not — only to realize later that our intuition was somehow right.

Let’s be honest, when someone truly loves you, they don’t let you wonder. They don’t send mixed signals. In fact, the opposite is true. Their actions speak louder than their words, and they show their love through their actions rather than just telling you they love you.

They consistently do small things they usually wouldn’t do for other people, which, when combined, are a good indicator someone genuinely cares.

Nadia is now in a healthy, fulfilling relationship with her new girlfriend, Sandra. And she says she feels a huge difference with her previous relationship.

Anytime she needs to talk, Sandra is there to listen. She knows she has her emotional support and that she’s not a burden for her. If Sandra sees Nadia isn’t in her best mood, she asks her if she needs to go for a walk and vent. Her ex, instead, seemed to never have time for that.

Someone who doesn’t love you won’t be interested in spending time listening to your problems; they will have other priorities. Those who love you instead want to do something if they see you are struggling.

Be with someone who can’t wait to spend time with you.

If someone loves you, they will feel the need to see you, and you will notice it. You won’t have to wait one month before seeing them — unless you are in a long-distance relationship, that’s an entirely different story.

When Nadia and Sandra started dating, they met once or twice a week, and they couldn’t wait to see each other again. Nadia never felt insecure about Sandra’s interest because she could feel she was genuinely into her.

Then, after a few months, when the relationship started to become more serious, and they became exclusive, they slowly began to see each other three or four days per week. Now, after two years, they live together. Things slowly and naturally progressed in a loving, healthy relationship.

Of course, as I explained a few weeks ago, time apart is essential to relationship health as well. You don’t want to spend your whole time with someone, no matter how much you love each other.

You must make enough time to pursue your dreams and focus on your hobbies or career. In fact, time apart is exactly what makes you long for the other person, and makes your moments together memorable.

3. They Want the Relationship to Work

If someone loves you, they want you to be happy with them. Whenever you two have a disagreement, they will focus on handling the conflict and sorting things out.

This is what Nadia noticed from the beginning of the relationship. When she had her first disagreement with Sandra, they treated it as an opportunity to get to understand each other and grow as a couple. And Sandra asked Nadia how she could be a better partner.

If someone doesn’t truly care, they will perceive relationship talks as a waste of time. Instead, someone who loves you will make communication a top priority because they want things to work.

4. They Want You to Meet Their Loved Ones

Let’s be honest, when you are in love with someone, you want the world to know you two are together. In particular, you want your loved ones to know it, and you can’t wait to introduce them to your significant other.

An example of this is when Sandra introduced Nadia to her family. She organized a dinner at her place after two months they were dating, and she couldn’t wait to do so. The same happened with her closest friends.

Someone who doesn’t care won’t feel the need to introduce you to their family or best friends. They won’t feel the need to talk to them about you. In fact, they might even avoid it.

Another sign someone is in love with you is they not only introduce you to their family and friends, but they are also curious to meet your loved ones. They probably won’t pressure you into it, but they will communicate their interest in knowing them.

And they will make an effort to get along with them. For example, the first time Sandra met Nadia’s parents, she cooked a meal for them. Then, she spent the entire afternoon talking with them. They had a long, pleasant conversation.

The same thing happened when Nadia met Sandra’s family, she invited them to her small lake cottage, and they had a nice barbecue. They had a lovely day together.

After a few dates, Sandra remembered the earrings Nadia was wearing the first time they met. And Nadia remembered when Sandra shared her fear of bees during their first date.

Someone who is not into you won’t even notice the small details. If someone loves you instead, they will impress you with their memory. They will remember almost every tiny detail of your first dates and how you two met.

Those who care about us tend to remember a lot of what we say and what we do.

9 Small Signs Someone Truly Loves You …

3. They Want the Relationship to Work

4. They Want You to Meet Their Loved Ones

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